Now that I am almost 40, I feel sorry for the people that rushed through college and may not have experienced everything college life has to offer. Looking back after almost 16 years beyond that great part of my life, I can honestly say that I do not regret taking my time and enjoying learning outside the classroom.
I was not the best student but I did enjoy each class I took. I was and continue to be a weak memorize information type of person. I rely on being able to look up the needed details I need for the task at hand and the Internet and Google (now Bing) have helped me cover a weakness I have had for a long time.
What was one of my strengths in college? Finding new people and learning from the connection I made with them. I found that at Michigan State University with over 40,000 students and faculty, there was always someone I did not know and could learn from. I had many friends in college in many different circles. I really have no connections to most of the people I knew in college (before LinkedIn and Facebook) but I learned from each person I knew all of college or only briefly.
What I really learned in college was to get out of my comfort zone and see the world through others eyes. I grew up in a majority white community with a majority middle class set of friends. I was very shy as a kid and introverted. When I left for college I knew that I had to change and be more outgoing. I made it a purpose to meet a lot of people wherever I went. I had many friends in college and most were not like me. The ones I enjoyed the most were people that lived their lives to the fullest. I had friends of all races, religions and sexual preferences. I had a few friends that would have thought of as extreme geek and some that were jocks. They helped me to deal with the differences and commonalities of relationships that we all should have in our lives.
Looking back on those years they made me who I am and I am thankful that I had time to grow as a person and find myself before I had to get grown-up in the so called real world. I still try to meet and find interesting people in the communities I participate these days. I do not have as much time and energy to dedicate to these relationships but I hope I am still growing as a person.
(The photo included in the post was from a Michigan State football tailgate probably 1993. I am the guy with the blue hat on in the back.)